Trim the Fat
Remember that choice Sophie had to make? If she had asked the dude next to her to do it, he would've had a much easier time. But then Meryl Streep probably wouldn't have had as much to work with as an actor.
It's much easier for others to make choices for us, since they aren't emotionally invested in it. Your best friend in high school could probably see that the boob you were dating wasn't good for you, but you couldn't see it because you were too wrapped up in it.